Body and Sex Positivity in Paganism
In Paganism, our body, together with nature, is our temple. Most of us in the Asatru and Norse Pagan faith prioritize the health of our body and mind very highly. In fact, our health has always been one of the most important aspects of our life in Midgard, the land of the humans. Our health and well-being are the foundation for a good life.
Being body and sex positive means, not just accepting, but honoring the body that we have and the sex life that we live. That includes every single type of body and mind. And it includes every sensual and sexual experience and interest that we may have or want to explore. The only limiting factor that we believe in is that it must be consensual, it must be joyful for everyone involved, and it must be true and authentic.
Sex in Asatru is seen as a very natural activity. Just like any other species, sex is a part of our daily lives, it's a source of pleasure, a source of potential pro-creation, and it's a source of celebration. Yes, sex in Asatru is a celebration of life. Without sex, we wouldn't have life. So, exploring our sexual interests are crucial for a healthy life.
Sex and Marriage
Marriage in Asatru works a bit differently from many other faiths. Really a marriage in Asatru, for most people, is more a celebration of our love relationship(s). It is a way to honor what we have been building so far and what we plan to continue to build in the coming years. A marriage in Asatru is not necessarily for life. It can be, naturally. But it can also be a shorter period or an eternal marriage. In Asatru, it is optional whether you want to define a duration for the marriage.
Now, sex and marriage in Asatru are seen as two distinct things. Sex is one thing and marriage is another thing. Thus, you may choose to have sex before, during, and after marriage with any person and any number of people. You may also choose not to. Meaning, whether you want an open or a closed relationship is completely up to you and what you decide in your relationship(s). The key factor is that you are on the same page, completely transparent and honest, and that every person involved are comfortable with the situation.
This, naturally, makes the pagan world one of the most inclusive and diverse groups of people and faiths in this world. Monogamous and non-monogamous, or polyamorous, relationships are all welcome on the same level and it is not a direct matter of the faith. Likewise, whether we are together with men, women, or a mix is also not a concern of the faith. It is something that we decide for ourselves together with our partner(s).
Sex as a Ritual
In Asatru, among other pagan faiths, sensual and sexual activity can also be included in various rituals. However, it is important to notice that this is not at all necessary for the practice. Though, many do find meaning in combining their sex life and their faith.
Sex rituals in paganism can include solo activities, sex with one or more partners, and sex as part of a group setting. Like the act of having sex and the distinction between sex and marriage, sharing sex among more people is for many pagans a very natural thing to do. Sex is seen as an act of love for ourselves and others involved, it is a time of pleasure, and it is a veneration and celebration of life, nature, and the gods.
However, this open mindset is, generally speaking, not an invitation to expect sex or any other romantic activity from any pagan. Naturally, just like we are open-minded, we are also very conscious of who we invite into our lives. Sex should be meaningful in general, but especially, when speaking of sex as a ritual.
It is also important to notice that sex rituals are usually not of the type that we may stumble upon in videos online. It can be, but often these videos are made for different purposes and often by people who are not actively engaged in a pagan faith. However, we also do not condemn or judge what is right or wrong. Very few things in life are de facto right or wrong. Other matters are up for personal evaluation.
Body and sex positivity is the key to celebrating life through some of the most intense feelings and sensations that we humans get to experience. That is a key part of a healthy life. Our bodies and our sex lives are meant to be honored, to be explored, and to be celebrated throughout our lives. Our bodies are the channel through which we get to experience some of these intense feelings and sensations that sex, among other things, can reveal for us.